You are not born with Confidence , you need to build it.

You are not born- with confidence, you need to build it within yourself. It is one of the most valued virtues in today's times. No employer looks for 'confidence' as a skill in the resume but the lack of it might just cost you everything you've ever wanted. Along with building technical skills, people invest in building confidence within themselves. 

Well building confidence doesn’t require you to be successful it requires climbing the following steps till you have reached a point where you are comfortable being uncomfortable.

You might need to navigate your way through these check posts to get where you want to.

·       Self Awareness

·       Self Acceptance 

·       Self Belief

 

SELF AWARENESS

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ―Aristotle

We try so hard and spend hours thinking and overthinking to understand others, understand their actions, reactions, emotions, mindset, likes, dislikes and what not! Amidst all this, we completely fail to understand ourselves. Being ‘aware of yourself’ means being aware of who you truly are and what kind of a person you are. Self-awareness is not an overnight process. It might take you days or even months to come to terms with yourself. The recipe of self-awareness just reads one ingredient, solitude.

To get to know yourself you need to spend time all by yourself in solitude away from all kinds of worldly distractions. Contemplation might lead you into retrospection. It is during contemplation and retrospection that you find the real YOU.

SELF ACCEPTANCE

'Trying to be someone else is a waste of who you are'  - Annonymous 

You will only be able to accept yourself once you are fully aware of who you are. Self-acceptance will come only after self-awareness. You will not be able to accept something you are not aware of similarly, you will not be able to accept yourself if you are not aware of who you truly are. Self-acceptance involves you accepting you the way you are. It is all about realising that you are imperfectly perfect. It is not about ignoring your flaws but it’s about knowing your flaws and acknowledging them. Not being afraid of being the real you in front of the world. Building the attitude where you will not be affected if others don’t like you.

SELF BELIEF

‘Self-belief comes from the promises you make and keep to yourself.’ 

Self Belief will only come after self-awareness and self-acceptance.  Only when you have completely understood yourself and accepted it you will be able to believe in yourself. Since you have already assessed and evaluated yourself, you know what you're truly capable of. When you know your capabilities you know your self-worth. Your self-worth is what will nurture self-belief inside you. When we say ' I believe in myself ' it means we know what we are capable of.

Self-belief is directly related to self-confidence. If you are high on self-belief, you are meant to be high on self-confidence. The first step you take towards fulfilling your dreams is believing in yourself.

 

You are not the problem, the problem is what you think of yourself. What matters is your opinion of yourself and not others opinion of who they want you to be. When you focus on your opinion, you will become aware of your true self and will learn to fully accept yourself and will eventually start believing in yourself. This will help you develop a personality full of confidence.